baby weight loss right after birth | The Lost Ring

baby weight loss right after birth

I have never really given much thought to my possessions and the value they hold for me. I guess thats mainly because Ive never really lost anything.  I mean sure, I lose socks on a daily basis (where do they go?!) and there was that one time I lost my car keys (my daughter had cleverly hid them behind the radiator). But these were all things that I knew were somewhere, they werent truly lost. 

At the weekend, my husband wanted to go to a local cattle market in Derby.  Its kind of like a huge car boot sale, at a, well cattle market. He had been as a child and had never been since, and for some reason on Sunday morning, he had a determination that he wanted me and my daughter to experience it too. So, at 9.30am on a very cold Sunday morning, we piled into the car and arrived at the market. 

There was quite an assortment of objects and folk at the market to say the least.  You could buy anything from what looked like the first ever camcorders to a pair of African bongos.  My daughter had her little purse with her and was intent on finding a bargain. Her daddy had been giving her bartering tips in the car, "tell them 10p is your final offer", (my daughter is only two and a half).  She ended up buying a small womble, it was Uncle Bulgaria if you are interested, and she was most excited to buy a little ride along scooter for the cost of one whole pound. 

After we had done a loop of the market and I had picked up the scooter and my daughter more times than I can remember, I looked down to suddenly notice my engagement ring was missing.  I immediately knew I had dropped it on the floor. I knew it was definitely on my finger when I got out of the car.  I knew I had it on at the start of our market trip. And I then began to panic.  I retraced my steps, scouring the floor.  But there was so many people, it was so hard and like looking for a needle in a haystack. Me and my husband walked around another 3 times.  No ring. And then I started to cry.  

Yep, right in the middle of the market I started to cry. I just couldnt believe my precious ring was gone.  I have had it for 7 years and I have never ever lost it before.  I spent the rest of Sunday sobbing about my lost ring.  I cried for all of the things it means to me. For all of the amazing times Ive had whilst wearing it. For all it symbolises to me.  My husband gently reminded me that although it was special, it was a possession.  That its memories and meaning could be remembered.  That I had many other things to be grateful for.  That we were lucky we hadnt lost my daughter on her new scooter to a herd of cows at the market. And he is so right. 

But, for this week I am doing everything in my power to find my ring. I truly believe in the kindness of total strangers.  I have a hope that it may be given in.  Today, I have spoken to countless people regarding my ring and I have been amazed at their kindness. Strangers willing to ring around and contact the cleaners of the market to see if it has been found.  Shops who are willing to put up notices. Pawn shops who will inform staff. Strangers on twitter who have re-tweeted my plea.  A man who told me about how his daughter had lost her ring in a fridge and how he hoped I was reunited with mine. 

So how do I end this blog? A funny note about how a day at the market was very expensive, that my daughters scooter is her most expensive present ever? Erm no.  I think I will end it by saying that if my ring is never found, that if all I have are the memories of my ring, that what I will remember is the kindness and compassion of total strangers.  That for all of the truly awful stuff that is far, far worse than losing a ring that happens around the world, right here around us all, are lovely and kind people. And its only when we really need that kindness we can sometimes find it. 

Thanks for reading, 




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baby weight loss recipes | Being a stay at home mum

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Hi there! And apologies for the very slow blogging over the recent weeks. I have had a hectic time of late and have been tweeking things here and there behind the scenes on my blog, so thank you so much for reading and please bear with me.  Normal service will be resuming and, much to my husbands dismay I have some fabulous haul blogs coming up!!! Today, I thought I would blog about something that I have been meaning to blog about for ages, being a stay at home mum. 

For me, the decision to take a career break from my job was a really tough one, and it was made that bit tougher by the huge amount of pressure I felt from others and well, society I guess.  Pre-baby, I had worked in the NHS for 10 years and had done 4 years of training, a degree and a Masters to get to my current job.  After my one years maternity leave was up, I went into work to discuss hours which I could work, and basically, what I wanted to work and what the service wanted me to work just werent compatible.  I was very lucky and was offered the chance to take a 5 year unpaid career break where I could return to my original job upon return.  And I took the opportunity.  But not without alot of thought. 

I was really torn as to what to do, as taking a career break wasnt something that had ever occurred to me. I felt pressure from peers that really returning to work was the thing you ought to do, women havent worked hard for equal rights to then be stuck at home bringing up baby.  No-one I knew had taken a career break so I couldnt really ask anyones advice. Was I even doing the right thing? When a very dear friend sat down with me and told me to grasp the opportunity with both hands if that would make me happy, I decided that is what I would do. 

And I am so so glad I did.  I am in year two of my career break and I can honestly say it is the best decision I made.  But the best decision I made for me.  Not for the other mums at the baby group.  Not for the gossip at the post office.  Not for the mum who returned to work as soon as she could.  No.  I made this decision for me and my family. So why judge?   

There came a time at baby groups when all of the mums starting returning to work and I was asked weekly when I was returning also.  When I told people I was taking a career break, I got alot of negative responses.  People said things like, "oh, I could never do that", "oh how boring to have to play all day", "I need adult company", "your husband must be rich", "oh how nice that you can sit and watch TV all day".  Yup, Ive heard them all.  And I am very guilty of replying to a few that "I felt it important to spend this time with my child", yep, big apologies to all working mums out there.  I muttered those words. But at times, I truly felt ostracised because I was going against the norm.  

I know there are working mums out there who would love to be in my position.  But then I know working mums that wouldnt.  And my point is that whatever we do, its ok.  The decisions I make are for me and my family.  I shouldnt have to explain my reasoning for them.  I shouldnt have to defend that I do anything but watch TV all day.  That I am not some female version of Mr Tumble and I do not play in a circus tent all day to keep my daughter entertained.  That I do actually have a brain. And that I certainly do not go out for lunch everyday. Equality includes choice.  I am lucky that I can choose to stay at home with my daughter. 

I found that people were quick to judge me.  Quick to assume I didnt have a career before baby.  And alot of the time, quick to tell me their judgements.  I never heard people saying that to mums who went back to work (though I know that happens too). And I would never judge a working mum.  Because quite frankly, what has it got to do with me? Arent all us mums just the same? Arent we all just trying to do our best?  So why judge? Why feel the need to judge me and my decisions? Trust me, I have enough self doubt and criticism to see me through to my seventies.  I really dont need anyone elses. 

I think for some bizarre reason, we are always made to feel guilty as mums.  That we are not doing things right.  That we should be doing the same as everyone else.  We feel guilty for working.  We feel guilty if we dont. But I am calling it.  I am calling it right now. I am saying sod everyone else.  You do what feels right in your gut.  You do what is right for your family.  Whether that is going to work or staying at home. That is your right as a parent.  A right that should never ever be judged, (unless you are running off to join the circus and then I think a bit of debate is fair play).  So now, when people ask me if I am at work, I say that I am a stay at home mum.  And that is all I say. I say no more.  No excuses.  No reasoning. Because I am done having to explain myself.  

Are you are stay at home mum? Did you feel judged in your decision? Or are you a working mum and felt judgement too? Comments below please and as always, thanks for reading, 

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post pregnancy weight loss recipes | The Millers Barn Nottingham A review

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The last time I went into a Beefeater restaurant was well over 10 years ago, and I have a vague recollection that I went as part of a hen party. My memory is a little hazy. When Beefeater offered me and my family the chance to try their new menu, I thought I would go with an open mind and empty stomach, and hope for the best.  My preconceptions were that there would definitely be some questionable interior furnishings, a dodgy armchair of sorts and mediocre pub food. But, I left with a very different opinion indeed.  

The Millers Barn in Nottingham is ideally located just outside of Nottingham and directly opposite the local tram station.  Outside there is a play-area and seating area for the warmer months which unfortunately we didnt use as it was too cold.  First impressions of the inside were not at all how I had imagined. The restaurant was very open plan, airy, modern and decked out with funky furnishings.  There wasnt a dodgy looking armchair in sight. 

The menu had a great choice of food which was reasonably priced. We started with a tear and share chimichurri flatbread which was absolutely huge and more than enough for me, my husband and daughter to share, and it was delicious. For mains, I opted for the pulled pork burger which came with skinny fries, chunky coleslaw and pickled cucumbers. My husband chose a double chicken piri piri which was served with skinny fries, chunky coleslaw and a chilli and lime corn on the cob. The service was good and the food was delicious.  It was fresh and tasty with good sized portions. 

The childrens menu had a good selection of foods too, with healthy options available. My daughter chose spaghetti bolognese which came with a mini garlic bread. Her meal was delicious too, and tasted fresh and just cooked, I really cant stand childrens food that has just been blasted in the microwave. Obviously it would have been rude to leave without a pudding, so we shared (!) a chocolate brownie and my daughter sampled jelly and ice cream. For our drinks (and one had free refills), starter, two mains, and childrens menu choices with a pudding the bill came to just under £40.  

From not venturing into a Beefeater in over 10 years, I left the restaurant feeling that I would definitely eat at the chain again. It may not be gourmet dining, but the restaurant was family friendly, clean, modern and the food was freshly cooked and delicious.  Its definitely worth taking a second look at Beefeater and I highly recommend the Millers Barn in Nottingham!  

Thanks for reading and hope you are all enjoying a lovely Easter! 

Have you been to a Beefeater recently? Would you ever try this chain of restaurants? 

We were kindly gifted vouchers for our meal from Beefeater, but this review is 100% my own and honest opinion (and I would have happily paid for such a lovely meal). 

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